What Makes A Guy Nervous Around A Girl (& How To Overcome)?

Megha Chanda
What Makes A Guy Nervous Around A Girl
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What makes a guy nervous around a girl? It’s the same old story. He sees a cute girl, his heart begins to pound, and suddenly the smooth-talking charmer turns into a tongue-tied teenager.

It’s okay and I understand. Sometimes the problems we face are too big to solve by ourselves. That’s why I’m here. Let’s take a few minutes and figure this out together.

Being a man, what do you think is the most important thing that creates attraction with a woman? Making her smile? Touching her hand? How about having her see the real you inside your heart and soul and let it shine through a conversation with her.

So What Makes A Guy Nervous Around A Girl?

One of the main reasons why guys are nervous around girls is because they overthink. They get nervous and spend so much time trying to impress her that they forget to relax and have fun. In reality, she’s interested in you for who you are, not for what you have or how you look.

Most people look for answers in the area of dating that are outside rather than inside. The real answer is within you. With these resources, you will learn how to unlock the power of being yourself and radiate self-confidence attracting beautiful women naturally.

Have you ever felt nervous around a girl? If so, then you should check out this article to solve all of your dating problems.

You Are Not Using The Power Of POSITIVE MINDSET 

  • What happens when you have a NEGATIVE MINDSET?

Let’s consider there’s this girl that you’ve been fascinated with for quite some time now. She’s clearly out of your league -- she’s a knockout, and not just in looks. She’s also rich and famous. You think it’ll be impossible to get her to notice you, given that you don’t have anything going for you but.

She will become an unattainable goddess, and you will feel inadequate to get her. Therefore, a negative mindset is counterproductive to the process of making yourself attractive to women.

  • Having the Right Mindset is key to attracting and dating women. 

Learn to control your thoughts and start feeling more confident around women. There are 7 billion people in the world. You have to break through the noise to find your woman.

A healthy mindset should first teach you confidence and that you can get the job done. It will be an edge that will help boost your chances of picking up a woman. You will not only feel positive inside, but it will also show outside. Think positive and you have already won half

You Are NOT Confident

Lack of confidence can make you act in ways that will cause you to be rejected more often. Sometimes it stems from a fear of meeting new people or discomfort with the idea of starting something from scratch.

Some people don’t believe in confidence; they think it’s a myth or a manipulation tactic used to get ahead. But there are very concrete reasons your confidence levels affect the things you want out of life.

Confidence is not something that comes from the outside in. Confidence comes from the inside out. It’s not something you can see in the mirror or find by fighting with somebody. The inside is where confidence is born. It’s the rare combination of self-belief and calmness in the face of challenges that produce it.

I remember when my friend Dave was about to ask out a girl he found attractive. On the way to her place, he was preparing himself mentally for her rejection, just wanting to be prepared if she said no. 

  • Lesson learned from Dave’s attitude:          

That’s when I realized that this was a self-fulfilling prophecy. My actions were predetermined by my thinking, which affected how I felt, which in turn affected how she received my advances. If I framed the situation in that negative way then that’s exactly what would

  • My proven tip to be confident inside out around a girl

Don’t be always shy talking to girls, don’t chicken out or the conversation wouldn't go anywhere. Stop thinking about rejection and instead think about the success YOU wanted to achieve with women. 

  • How Dave, grew his confidence?

He EXACTLY did this. He thought about all the steps He could take to improve my chances by learning how to dance or buy new clothes or whatever. Then He set a time frame to work towards that goal by. The next step was to see what could go wrong along the way and try to make sure that didn't happen.

You Are NOT Ready To Accept That Rejection Is The First Step To Success

You have to keep in mind that a woman's 'no' is not a reflection of how good-looking you are, or how well you communicate. Rejection rates are fairly high in day-to-day social interactions. 

  • Rejection is part of the game. Be the BEST player

Start looking at rejection as a part of the courtship process and not as a sign that there is something wrong with you. Because the fear of rejection is such a powerful motivator, most men do everything they can to avoid it. To stop avoiding rejection, you first have to realize that it’s not all that bad.

  • C’mon stop beating around the bush

You don't have to beat around the bush like a timid little pussy. You need to be open and honest with a woman. You need to tell her how you feel and encourage her to reject you if she is not interested. This may come off as rather blunt or even harsh but she'll respect you for being straightforward instead of playing games or hiding your feelings.

  • Enjoy the PROCESS

You’re in love and it feels great. Lots of dates are going well and it’s only a matter of time before you meet the perfect someone. Your friends tell you to be careful because not every date is going to be perfect, but if the person you’re dating doesn’t want to see you anymore, that’s their loss, not yours.

You CANNOT Stop Overthinking

You’re sweating way more than you should be and it’s only because you’re thinking too much and worrying way too much about what she thinks. 

  • Why a guy overthinks about the girl he likes?

Overthinking is caused by high levels of thinking and anxiety. These are two distinct causes that have to be examined separately. If the woman you like is too beautiful for you or she’s too “high value”, that’s a purely one-dimensional problem. The problem lies in your perceived lack of value or skill rather than being nervous about what she thinks of you.

  • Take the leap of faith

While it's normal to feel a bit anxious (after all, you're approaching a woman you like), it's also important that you don't exaggerate the significance of approaching her. She is probably just as nervous as you are. You’re approaching her because, on some level, she wants to be approached.

There is a right way of thinking and doing things. If you’re serious about approaching women, I encourage you to jump into it in the next couple of days -- at least within the next few weeks. The sooner, the better.

You already know what makes a guy nervous around a girl, so now let us give you a few tips on how to approach her. But, don’t try too hard or she will wonder why you’re so nervous around her.

You won’t believe what I am going to say.

Nervousness Is A GOOD Sign

YES! You have read it right. Nervousness is a good sign, not a bad one. Nervousness is the fear of disconnecting with someone you feel strongly about, which is exactly what you want to happen. So don’t overthink it and ruin the moment, otherwise, you’ll be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. 

Turn Your Weakness Into Your Strength.

  • But How? Simple

By Applying the golden rule – first impressions are everything. A girl is often an expression of her character. It’s about time you got acquainted with each other better and find what lies beyond “Hi”.

Smile at her and she won’t be able to resist smiling back. It’s true, you can actually make people feel good with a smile. Be honest and she will appreciate it. Now, all you have to do is ask her questions and learn about her personality. She will be so moved by your genuine interest that the conversation will become easy.

  • Be yourself-some guys try so hard

If you’re nervous around a girl, you’re probably trying too hard to impress her. This usually leads to embarrassing scenarios where she easily sees through your attempts and you look like a fool.

How You CAN Approach A Girl?

  • If you want to approach a woman and you want a conversation that leads to her asking you out, then you shouldn’t be trying too hard. In fact, the best thing you can do is act normal and friendly. There’s no need for you to try to impress her or even say something grand. Just be yourself.

My friend used to be oblivious when it came to girls. But he knew that he really liked this girl. He was just too nervous to ask her out, so one day when they were walking and holding hands, he asked if she wanted to go out with him. She said "Yes!"

  • The goal of an approach is simply to initiate a conversation that leads to a date. Catching a girl’s attention is easy if you know what to say. But the secret to success is getting to her heart.

 Let’s say you’re at a party and you see a cute girl. Try saying something funny, or ask her a question about herself.

  • Agreeing and amplifying. This is a technique to build rapport, and it works really well. When she says something you agree with, tell her you agree and amplify by giving a more extreme example.

You’ve got this! So, what does it take to ask a girl out? Everyone is different of course, but we can help you avoid some of the most common mistakes guys make when asking a cute girl on a date.

Do You Still Have The Chance To Feel Nervous Around The Girl?

I Bet chances are slight. But still, your gut is telling that “You are nervous”, TRY this.

  • If there is something you feel nervous about doing, the best way to get rid of your nervousness is to gradually work up to it by starting with something easier. If you are too scared to talk with strangers, start off with people you know in common, and gradually move on to strangers. 
  • With women, this means talking with other women in front of a girl you like before you talk with her.  Lastly, You can't learn to swim without getting wet. You can't become confident around women without an opportunity to fail a few times in a safe environment. Confidence comes from taking chances and being rejected. It's one thing to read about the experience, and another to get out there and try it yourself.

Ok, now for a mix of butterflies and cold feet. Cold feet are a sign that you are worried about the outcome, but butterflies are evidence that you see something good coming, something you desire. Both of these emotions can get in the way of taking that step forward to approach the girl you like because each one causes your mind to start thinking about worst-case scenarios. When you see nothing but the negatives in the situation it's hard to imagine how things could go well.

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