Love, emotions, relationships: these are some eternal feelings of human minds that are unique and ancient from the time of emergence of human beings. With time, approaches to these eternal behaviors have evolved accordingly but the primary emotion always remained the same.
But no matter which era it is, conversations always play the most important role in building bonds on behalf of those eternal emotions. That’s why as the mode of conversation changed, many basic equations have also transformed in love.
A few decades back, conversations solely depended on letters. At that time, people used to send love letters to their loved ones, and these love letters used to be the passion and coolest thing of the time. But with the digital revolution, the dependency of conversation transferred to the texts.
That’s why again with time, texting has become the new adventure in modern-day relationships, especially when things are starting afresh between two people. That young, new romance in the air, endless conversations over texts and calls brings up all those “butterflies in our stomach”.
Through texts, we can virtually be with our partners anytime we want. Moreover, we can now understand whether the person on the other side has seen our text or not. No doubt it’s a benefit, but sometimes this also creates problems.
What if your message is ticked “seen”, but a reply from the opposite side never arrived? If you’ve found your way to this blog, you may have faced a similar kinda situation. Your heart has started palpitating, your mind is full of doubts and questions. Now all you wanna need to know is what it means if a girl sees your message but doesn't reply?
When a girl sees your message but doesn't reply it simply means she could be busy or uninterested, or she may want more effort from you, or she is ignoring you no matter what you have to say. The reason behind a girl seeing your text and not replying could be countless. “Reply” or “No reply” both have a message for you to understand.
The reason behind her not replying, however, is not as difficult to decode. In this write-up, I will reveal some interesting facts around the same.
Texting Is Different Than Talking
Remember how Chandler used to sit upon his phone, waiting for his crushes to call over. It is the same thing we do today over text messages. That rush to reply with a smart and flirty answer and take things forward, to patiently waiting for her reply, I am sure my readers have experienced it all.
However, before proceeding to decode the reasons behind her seeing, but not replying to your texts, I want my readers to understand the difference between texting and talking. Unless you understand this, you’ll never know the true meaning of someone’s ‘frequent texting’ and ‘no texting’.
Not everyone in our lives or every girl we choose to date will love to follow the trend of texting. Communication is a personal choice and communicating with our loved ones does not necessarily have to be limited to texting. No doubt, texting is a convenient option but you can’t expect anyone to choose convenience over their comfort. And always remember, comfort is a relative thing and hence depends on person to person.
Someone who does not reply to your messages may love to have conversations over the call, or she may prefer sitting with you at a cafe talking endlessly or she may have other love languages to express her emotions.
So in case, she is not replying to your messages, make sure to understand how your person loves to communicate with you. Try experimenting with your communication skills and do not judge her, based only upon her seeing and not replying to your texts.
Potential Reasons Behind Her Not Replying To Your Texts
As I have already mentioned earlier there could be a handful of reasons behind her not replying to your messages. However, having said that, when a woman is interested in you, she will move any distance and cross all borders just to stay in touch.
Not necessarily, no messages even after she has seen your texts will always come with a hidden meaning inside them. However, here is a list of reasons that you may relate to if she is not answering you back over texts even after seeing them.
She Is Busy With Work
Women these days are indeed getting goers. They do not compromise on their work even if it comes to romance or dating. No matter how important it is to their personal lives, women will choose to complete their work first. If she is not replying to your text messages, I would request my readers to be a little patient with their women first. Give her time to sort out her work life first and then possibly she will get back to your texts.
So before you overthink her not replying to your messages, consider checking on her and try to understand her situation if you find her busy with work and other sorts of responsibilities.
It’s Just A Mistake
Maybe it’s just a mistake and doesn’t deserve your overthinking. Sometimes, we see texts on our phones in a random manner, but do we always reply to them? NO, we don’t. Do we always mean not replying to them? The answer is ‘NO’ as well. If your girl has not replied to you once or twice even after seeing your text, maybe it’s just such a random thing and she doesn’t mean it. In such a situation, wait for a few days, let your connection with her bloom, and then see.
She Is Not Interested In You Romantically
You are indeed a great friend to this lady whom you’re endlessly chatting with. She is single and loves to hang out with you. The time you spend together feels great and you two have made some great memories. But, your romantic offer just does not fit right in her perspective. Yes, your texts are all cute and surely make her smile, but when it comes to choosing you as a partner, she walks back.
Ladies often refrain from replying to texts if they feel you are expecting too much from them, especially when she is not even interested romantically here. Again, there is nothing wrong with your expectations or approach, but she is not the ONE here.
Your Text Was Rude Or Out Of Her Comfort Level With You
We all have a certain comfort level that we share with our friends, family, and love interests in our lives. Maybe you have already texted her something that was out of that comfort level you currently share with her. Your sudden flirty texts or romantic approach towards her possibly received her in surprise or shock.
Inability to understand this sudden offer from a friend will reflect as “no-reply”. If that is not the situation, I still want men to consider the kind of text they send her. What may seem obvious and light-hearted to you, may be something offending and rude to a woman!
She Is Already Committed To Someone
I Understand totally how much both you and this young lady are vibing together and you would love to know her more. But, your new infatuation will not stop her from being in an already committed relationship. She looks at you as a great friend or maybe something more to hang out with, but that ain’t changing the fact that she’s in love with someone else. Maybe that’s why when she understood that you’ve started falling for her, she decided to take her steps back. Maybe that’s the reason behind her not replying to your texts even after seeing them.
This will never mean that your approach towards her was wrong or you lack something. It’s simply she’s with someone else and not interested in building any romantic connection with you.
She Has Things Going On In Life
Besides being a talented working woman, maybe she’s having all her life jumbled up and just taking time to sort out her responsibilities. This is especially the case with women who have to play several roles in their life and all of it is important. Being a responsible working woman isn’t as easy as it seems to be, and thus sometimes texting is the last priority on her list.
She hears you but trusts her when she has things going on in her life. Some relationships will demand more patience, trust, and understanding out of you, rather than second-guessing on miscommunication.
She’s Not Much Of A Text-person
Maybe texting isn’t her thing at all. She could be a modern smart and talented young lady yet couldn’t like text conversation. Rather she may love to go around and spend time with you, your movie dates and dinner dates are all perfect unless you find her not replying to your text messages over the phone.
I want my readers to understand that not all women are the same and prefer texting. You will find all your texts having those blue ticks and yet no reply into your inbox. You may find it weird and stressful, but many women prefer direct conversations rather than texting.
The Fault In Our Stars
Remember how Augustus met Hazel at such a point where they thought life was almost over. Both of them were just the best for one another until life decided to take Agustus away! But, that did not stop Hazel from living her life and moving forward.
If she is not replying to your countless texts, chances are this connection is not meant to be the way you want it. Not every person we meet is a potential date. I understand it is hard to accept this truth, but it will need your faith and self-improvement to attract someone whose stars align with yours.
Know-How To Get A Reply
- Do not rush or force things
When it comes to relationships, I have seen most men force or rush things with the women they date. This is the first mistake most men are unaware of. Texting her for constant conversations and creating an unwanted mess when she fails to text back smoothly to your texts is often a very common thing among young couples especially.
Rushing things ain’t taking you nowhere. Rather choose to take things slow and again make sure you are giving space and time to each other whenever required. Build the base of your relationship firm, rather than focusing on her seeing your text messages and not replying on time.
- Understand her level of comfort
More than anything, if you’re building a new relationship, first focus on creating a safe and healthy comfort level with your girl. Understand that whatever you say even over text must make her feel comfortable and not feel restricted or resistant towards answering.
Start with having light conversations over the texts. Light flirty messages, good morning, and good night wishes, talking about common interests like music, movies, etc. are a few great ways, to begin with.
- Know what to say
Getting a reply gets simpler and easier when men understand the right things to say to a woman. Start with easy-going funny messages, try something real and fresh, rather than going with the same old hi-hello, What’s Up, or anything stereotypical. Create your unique contexts of interest to have conversations on.
Add life to the way you present your texts and simply witness connections to build up just the way you want.
- Do not give yourself away
I understand totally how much you are interested and invested in exploring this connection with this young lady. You adore everything about her and love to have fulfilling conversations. However, before you proceed to make all the fresh smart moves to woo her, make sure to not give too much out of yourself in the process. Being too much available and non-stop text messages from your end may make her feel deprived of space. People will often take you for granted when you try to give out more than needed.
It is thus important to check how much you are texting her, even when she is seeing and not replying. Be patient and know your worth always.
- Communicate clearly
Whether over text messages, calls, or direct conversations, clear communication skills are very subtle yet very important. These days, we are often confused about what we want sometimes, yet expect so much out of our partners or date mates. This is where clashes come into the picture and a mess is created even at the beginning of a relationship.
Knowing what to say and how to say certain things, especially in a new connection is a very important skill set I want my readers to work on.
The communication gap is a big problem among couples today. The problem arises mostly when one has a different mode of expression than the other. However, the trick here is to understand your person more rather than decoding why she is not replying.
However, I hope by now, you have the answers to what does it mean when she is seeing your texts but not replying to any! All the possible clarity that you have gained is true. It’s not healthy to indulge and stress yourself if she is not replying to your texts.
Instead, try being like ROSS, calm, patient, kind, and honest. Reflect on your truth and your Rachel will eventually come for you!
Here are a few frequently asked questions men often ask me when some girls see their texts but don’t reply. These quick answers can help you too.
It happens. Girls may not be interested in you, but they’ll never get tired of your buttery sugar-coated messages. Think wisely, who doesn’t love to be appreciated! If you suspect something like this, then go for a straightforward clear-cut text. Chances of getting a reply will increase.
If she continuously ignores your texts, then you also suddenly stop texting her and giving her any extra priority. Start living your life, hang out with other girls, post them on social media, show that you’re happy, and her ‘ignorance’ doesn’t matter. Then observe her behavior. You’ll have your answer.
No, I’ll never recommend it. If you see someone, no matter if it's a girl or a guy, ignoring your text you should not text him/her again and again. You can always put a simple text in his/her inbox after a certain time but not often. Don’t let someone’s ignorance hurt your self-dignity. Learn to maintain the attitude, it’s everything.