Going through fights or breakups is never easy, but there is one thing that usually weighs on us women; does the guy regret what he did?
Well, yes, it’s possible that your boyfriend regrets making a mistake but don’t call him back just yet.
Here’s our quick guide on the common signs he knows he messed up.
7 Signs He Knows He Messed Up
1. He Does Not Start Another Romantic Relationship
When a guy is truly sorry about losing you and knows he messed up, he may remain single for quite a while.
Having true feelings for someone doesn’t let you set sight on another woman or start a new relationship.
It is also possible that he is a complete mess after losing you and doesn’t see himself with a new partner. He’s also probably trying to stay single in case you decide to come back.
But don’t be overly positive; it’s best to take this sign with a pinch of salt because it’s also possible he hasn’t found himself a girl just yet.
Or it’s also possible that the girl you recently saw him with is just a rebound.
That means he isn’t ready to come back to the dating scene just yet and probably had been drunk texting the other girl for a booty call.
2. He Makes Major Life Changes
Sometimes, when a man regrets breaking your heart, he makes a conscious effort to improve himself.
You’ll notice that he will start making changes in his personal life, at least for the foreseeable future.
For example, he might become more serious about his career and opt for health and fitness.
That’s usually a man’s way of showing that he feels guilty and is ready to fix himself.
3. He Tells You He Regrets Losing You
This has to be one of the most obvious signs, but usually, women don’t go for this as this could be a trap.
But ladies, sometimes, when a man knows he messed up, he steps up and tells you how much he regrets what went down between you two.
When the guilt starts eating away at men, they feel like a sincere apology is the best way out. He will accept responsibility for what happened and tell you it’s just you that he needs.
It’s also possible that he unravels how much guilt he has been holding in his heart.
4. He Asks Your Mutual Friends About You
When a man regrets hurting you and misses you, he will ask your close friends about you in hopes of getting some intel on how you are doing without him.
Usually, getting out of a serious relationship is harder on women, so this could be his way of knowing how you are dealing with it….and he could use this later on.
It could also mean that he has finally realized how much he cares for you and is aware of the intensity of his own emotions for you.
5. He Goes Out Of The Way To Get To You
Even highly trained relationship coaches would tell you that post-breakup if a guy goes out of his way just to get in touch with you, he wants you back.
In real life, most guys get over breakups over time and let the whole situation go. But if a guy makes grand gestures just to talk to you, it’s a clear sign he is guilty. Maybe he starts with sending you good morning wishes every day…unless he is blocked.
He will also get in touch with your best friend if you have blocked him in hopes of getting through to you. It’s possible that he even asks mutual friends to speak to you for a possible reconciliation.
And if it were a long-distance relationship, a grand gesture would be him showing up at your doorsteps with flowers in his hand and his heart on his sleeve.
6. He Tells You He Can’t Seem To Move on
Single life isn’t easy on guys. But when a guy hurts someone they truly love, it can be difficult for him to get on with his love life.
Usually, guys who regret losing their girlfriend don’t opt for more romantic partners unless they get who they love back.
So when a guy tells you that he is unable to move on, get a new girlfriend or even go for a rebound relationship, he wants you to back.
But be careful; this could also be a tactic to gain sympathy so it’s best to corroborate this claim.
7. His Social Media Also Shows That He’s Sorry
If you guys are on a no contact rule post break up but still added on social media, you can look for common signs that this man realizes his mistake.
Usually, if a guy has been through a tough time after the break-up, he will not post pictures of him having fun.
Alternatively, he’ll feel like it’s a good idea to post content that shows that he has ended his bad behavior.
One of the other signs of him realizing he messed up is him keeping tabs on your social media, keeping an eye out for a potential, new guy.
His being jealous of guys on your social media or thriving social life is also a good sign that he wants you back.
What To Do When He Messes Up?
Even after a guy sincerely apologizes to you, having him mess up can be a difficult situation to be in and lead to denial.
But that won’t change how the relationship ended, and it’s best to consult a therapist to consider a healthy coping mechanism.
Processing your grief will prevent any drastic change in your mental health and put you in the right direction for recovery.
The other option is to press the restart button on your relationship. But to do that, consult a relationship expert to sort out your previous relationship issues.
Using a step-by-step method of rebuilding your relationship is advisable.
FAQ
Do Guys Feel Guilty for Hurting You?
Guys do feel guilty if they truly care about the other person. They might not always show it directly, and it might take them some time to express their guilt.
How Long Does It Take a Man To Realize He Messed Up?
A guy who messed up might realize it in a few days, weeks, months, or years. A lot depends on circumstances and what exactly happened between the two of you.
