In relationships, breakups hurt. No matter how toxic the relationship became, just after the breakup, everybody gets hurt. But life doesn’t stop.
We all need to keep moving on. And we do. People move on. Just the time differs. Some people move on fast, and some take time.
Depending on the person, it may take a week, a month, or even a year to move on from the past.
According to a survey conducted by a France-based independent European Agency, moving on from past relationships are much easier for women than men after breakups.
Initially, it may sound a bit surprising because women have a reputation of being much more emotionally involved in relationships than men.
You may have faced such a similar scenario when your ex moved on so easily, and you’re surprised!
You used to share so many memories and had a beautiful bond, but she still moved on so easily. Yet you are still struggling to cope with the situation.
Yeah bro, most of the girls move on very easily. There can be so many reasons behind this phenomenon.
If you want to know the reasons and understand your ex’s phenomenon, yeah, you have come to the right place.
In this blog, I am gonna tell you why women can move on so easily.
What mental state do they go within while moving on? And how you can cope with the situation.
Stick to this write-up, and don’t miss any specific point that might be proven relevant for you.
Reasons Why Girls Move On Easily: Decoding Female Behavior After Breakup
On average, girls are proven to be more emotionally vulnerable than men. This is why women have a reputation for being much more involved in their relationships.
But it’s also true that they move on or at least have the ability to move on from relationships easily.
Sounds like a contrary, right?
Yeah, there are many reasons girls can move on more easily than men. In this section, I will be discussing some of those most popular reasons.
#1 Girls Are More Practical
Women become mature earlier than men. That’s why a woman is considered much more mature compared to a guy of the same age.
Due to this maturity, women are more practical.
Look, no matter how much breakup hurts, breakup happens for a reason.
Most of the time, it happens for something better. Women understand this truth pretty well.
It’s not like they don’t feel anything or get hurt.
Many men tend to possess a preconceived notion that girls don’t get that much hurt compared to men after breakups.
Here, I must tell you that it’s the exact opposite most of the time. Initially, women get more hurt than men after breakups.
But as they are practical enough, they handle the situation pretty efficiently.
Actually, they don’t want to indulge in the same toxicity again after the breakup.
Exactly from here, girls acquire the strength for moving on.
If your ex-girlfriend has moved on out of her practical mindset, she must have cleared or at least tried to clear all confusions with you.
Did she tell you something like she has no business in holding on to the past incidents that caused the breakup?
Has she anyway indicated that she wants to start her life afresh and advised you to do the same? Does she try to handle the situation calmly and with patience?
If your answer to at least two of these questions is a ‘YES,’ then be sure that you indeed lost a pretty mature woman.
#2 Maybe She Wasn’t That Much Involved
If you recently have broken up with your girlfriend and are pretty surprised that she moved on so easily after the breakup, it’s possible that she wasn’t even that much involved with you in the relationship.
Yeah, you may counter it by saying, ‘No-No. We used to share a beautiful bond and a lot of memories. How can you say that she wasn’t that much involved!’
Look, did you guys break up all of a sudden? No, right!
Relationship counselors say that the background of most breakups takes time to be created. During this time, perhaps the beautiful bond with your girlfriend turned into a toxic one.
Maybe she didn’t break the relationship up immediately but already started maintaining emotional distance from you.
There exactly, the relationship lost her active involvement.
That’s why immediately after the breakup, you notice her moving on easily from the past. In this case, your ex doesn’t actually move on very quickly.
Rather she took a lot of time to move on even while in the relationship, and finally, she broke it up after moving on from you.
Remember how she used to behave with you just a few days or maybe weeks before the breakup.
Did she start talking less with you? Did she tend to avoid conflicting arguments? Did she stay comparatively cool while breaking up with you?
If yes, then I’m afraid your ex already moved on from the relationship even before turning into your ‘EX.’
#3 Women Have More Option
This one is one of the most prominent reasons girls can move on more easily than guys after breakups. They have a lot of options to consider.
No matter how much you used to love her, how prosperous your career was, how good you looked, or how good you were in bed, thinking of yourself as a unique one in her life is nothing but utter stupidity.
Here you need to understand that, in general, men are more submissive to women due to their intimate vulnerability.
That’s why women always have more options than men.
A girl just needs to change her relationship status into ‘Single,’ and believe me; her inbox will be flooded with admirers.
This availability of options gives women confidence after breakups, where men suffer from insecurities.
‘Will I be able to be with such a girl like her?’ Thoughts like this constantly keep hitting guys’ minds, and they keep revolving around a loop out of this insecurity.
But with ultimate self-confidence, girls can break the loop, free themselves up from all kinds of dilemmas, and move on.
If you notice your ex hanging out with several guys after breakups, and eventually, she moves on, then most likely, the confidence she acquired from those guys’ availability helped her move on.
#4 They Are Sensitive About Toxicity
All of us know that women are more emotionally sensitive than men.
If relationships become too much toxic, women tend to find a way to get over it. But they do not usually opt for breaking the relationship up just for that.
I can’t say anything about the women who often flirts with other guys and take their relationships casually.
Still, if a girl is serious about her relationship, she will be trying her best to make it work.
But at the same time, toxicity is something that every woman tries to avoid as much as possible.
That’s why in toxic relationships, girls get quite tired of continuously handling the situation.
Eventually, when breakups take place, no doubt they initially get hurt, but they feel free from the loop of putting in continuous effort and getting tired.
Moreover, being free from the toxicity, women can again explore their surroundings, and thus their soul gets rejuvenated.
At this point, when your ex looks back at you, she finds nothing but the toxicity she left behind. This helps her more to get over the relationship and move on so easily.
Remember the condition of your relationship just before the breakup.
Had it become too toxic? Does your ex now look at or talk to you with disgust?
Maybe she got enough irritated with the toxicity, and finally, the breakup was a sigh of relief for her.
#5 Girls Are Hardly Attached To Controlling Ego
Men are quite attached and sensitive about their controlling egos.
Yeah, being a guy, I must say that most of us are quite over-possessive about our girlfriends.
From this possessiveness, we often try to control the lives of our girlfriends. This phenomenon is known as our toxic male ego.
It doesn’t only ruin our relationships but also affects the core of our minds. We hardly get over this mentality even after breakups.
That’s why even after breakups, men often tend to think about whom their ex is talking to, whom they are hanging out with, how they can still control the lives of their ex-girlfriends.
The inaccessibility of their ex-partner tends to haunt men every now and then after breakups. This is why men stick to past relationships longer than women.
On the other hand, women generally don’t act out of their controlling egos.
In fact, after breakups, they hardly think about controlling their ex-boyfriends’ lives.
Rather they invest in themselves, manage time for self-love, explore their surroundings. These refreshing attitudes help women get over the past, and they move on easily.
#6 They Have A More Efficient Support System
What does a person need after a breakup? What actually helps people to move on?
All breakups hurt and leave heavy emotional wounds, no matter how much the breakup was needed.
But after a breakup takes place, people need a proper support system to survive.
They need other people to talk with, to share their feelings, thoughts, and the moments of sorrow they are currently dealing with.
Without such a proper support system, a person, whether a guy or a girl, eventually sinks deep inside depression and can hardly move on.
For women, most of the time, their post-breakup support system is strong and very efficient.
During the post-breakup phase, a woman or a man needs people to listen to them with patience.
Immediately after breakups, we don’t need people to hang out with.
Even at this point, we don’t stay in the mood of hanging out. Exactly this thing goes wrong with men.
After breakups, we try talking to our friends, sharing our feelings, or seeking moral support. But instead, what we get is the offer for hanging out.
Our friends try taking us to pubs or strip clubs. They expect us to get involved with other fun things and get over the past.
But when girls go to their friends after breakups, they don’t hang upon them.
They don’t get irritated or offer to take them to pubs and buy a drink. Rather they try listening to them with patience.
Hours pass, their friends hold on to them, and the girl keeps sharing all her feelings, sorrow, and toxicity.
After talking to such a few friends, they get relieved, almost free from all emotional burden that was bothering her.
She’s now ready to move on.
#7 Women Generally Act Out Of Pride After Their Breakups
Girls are not also free from all kinds of ego. If men act out of possessive ego, then girls act out of another type of ego.
This ego comes from a sense of pride. Immediately after breakups, most women start thinking about how a man can do ‘this’ to her.
After getting flooded with more & more options, this sense of pride even rises more.
At this point, girls start thinking that “I am Someone & Something that one shouldn’t ever mess up with.”
This ego of proudness creates more distance of that girl from their ex, which helps them move on.
What Can You Do Of It?
If you have landed on this blog and finally came this far reading it, you would probably be interested in knowing what YOU can do if you deal with such a situation.
Maybe you had a breakup recently and currently struggling to get over it, but you’re surprised to see that your ex-girlfriend has already moved on!
Look, if a person decides to move on from their past relationship, you have nothing to do with it.
In fact, you’re no one to mess up with her decision.
So, if you wanna patch up with your ex again even after knowing that she moved on, I’m afraid I’ll suggest otherwise.
Always remember that we love ourselves more than we love someone else.
If you know someone claiming otherwise, either the person is lying or doesn’t understand what love is.
Because experts say that people who don’t love themselves the most can’t love anybody else.
So, if you’re confused and even more hurt seeing your ex moving on easily after the breakup, I would request you to start loving yourself.
What you can do at this point is try to move on.
Below I’m sharing some pro-tips for you that are gonna help you move on further with your life.
#1 Stop Irritating Your Ex
To move on, first, you have to stop irritating your ex.
Neither it’s gonna bring her back to you, nor you’re gonna find pleasure with it. So, if you want to get over her, first stop pinging her continuously.
#2 Try Talking To People
Engaging in quality conversations is too important to get over something and move on.
A quality conversation doesn’t mean talking about other women or continuously blaming your ex.
Rather, try to evaluate yourself during the conversation share your feelings with someone who won’t judge you, no matter whether the person understands you or not.
#3 Avoid Over-Involvement
At this point, you need to avoid over-involvement with people to get over your ex.
Because when you start getting involved with someone or something, you’ll start remembering the moments of sharing attachments with your ex.
So, be with people, converse with them, but try not to get attached.
#4 Pursue Your Hobby
Your hobby is one of the most significant things that will help you get over your past and move on with your life.
It doesn’t only keep you engaged but also helps you to find the purpose and value of your life. That brings inspiration to move on.
In The End
Bro, I understand how difficult the situation is for you. No matter how valuable advice you get, you won’t be able to work on them if you don’t start loving yourself now.
So, spend time with yourself as much as possible.
Listen to music, try aromatherapy, and even get some professional help if needed. It doesn’t matter how quickly your ex has moved on.
Tell yourself that when you move on, nothing from the past will be enough to touch you again.
