Who doesn’t love to receive gifts? Everyone does, right. But when a woman receives gifts from some guy unexpectedly, many quires and speculations start revolving around her mind. In this regard, this initial one is ‘Why did he gift me?’
Look, when someone gives you a gift, it is usually a show of the affection and appreciation they have for you. There is a lot that goes behind choosing a meaningful gift – thoughtfulness, time, effort, and money. So, if you get a gift from a guy unexpectedly, it indeed makes you think or maybe confused about his true intention.
At this point, you may start thinking, what does it mean when a guy gives you a gift? If a guy gives you a gift, maybe he wants to show what he feels towards you. Maybe he is interested in you and would like to get closer to you. Or maybe he wants you to do something for him. It may also be that he is someone who just likes making people happy and has no other intention behind the gift.
See, like women, guys are also motivated by individual self-interest. That’s universal generalization is hardly possible to decide the reason behind any of their activities. What reason works for one guy, may not work for another. So, how can you decide the specific meaning that applies to you? Well, the meaning relies on the reason itself and the reason depends on the relationship you share with this guy and the situation when he’s gifting you.
So, who’s this guy? Is he a friend, or just someone that you know at work/school? Is this his first time giving you a present? Observing how he behaves with you and around you can give you an idea of what his intentions behind the gift are.
The type of gift you receive can also speak volumes. Some gifts are inherently romantic while others can be exchanged between family, friends, neighbors, and romantic partners.
Here in this blog, you’ll learn to decode guys’ intentions behind giving you presents by analyzing their gestures, the type of gifts, and will also know how you should react after understanding their intents.
Why Do Guys Give Gifts? (Possible Reasons Why He Gave You A Gift)
A guy may buy you a gift if he wants you to know you are someone special for him. Or it can be a bribe to get you to do something that he wants. It may also be a token of gratitude for your help in the past.
But to decode the specific reason that works for you, you must proceed with the most common reasons why guys offer gifts to women. It’s gonna make your journey much easier when you’ll analyze the type of gifts. During this phase, you have to observe the guy’s behaviors towards you. How he’s approaching? How his approaches are changing? You must notice everything. This behavioral analysis is gonna reveal the reason to a large extent for you.
Here are the most potential reasons why your guy may have offered you gifts.
He Is Interested In You
A guy who is interested in a girl and wants to get her attention may give her a gift.
Does his behavior change when you are around? Does he seem more gentle, mindful, and caring when he is with you? He may have feelings for you and giving you a gift is his way of expressing the same.
If you are interested in him too, this is a positive sign for you.
He Likes You
Has he ever expressed his feelings towards you? A lot of men find it difficult to express their emotions directly. It can be awkwardness, fear of rejection, or thinking that it might push you away.
If the gift is something that you have been wanting or have talked about in front of everyone, it’s a sign that he notices little things about you. He may like you and want to take things further. If you too are interested in him, that’s great! However, if you have no intention whatsoever to be with him, it’s better to let that be known to him.
He Wants A Favor From You
Guys also tend to gift, when they want some favors. Favors can be of many types. He may want you to help him with a project, or he wants you to attend a function with him. Or maybe it is something less innocent, like a intimate time. If he has asked you for something but you haven’t paid much attention to that, maybe this is his way of coaxing you.
If you feel he wants you to do something that you are not comfortable with, be direct with him. Set clear boundaries and reject the gifts if he keeps pushing you.
The Occasion Demands It
You invite him to your birthday or house-warming party, and he brings you a gift. It’s very common for friends, family, and neighbors to bring gifts when invited on such occasions. So, it can be just a polite gesture from his side.
However, if the gift is something very personal or romantic, for example, red roses, jewelry, lingerie, etc, it can indicate something else. It means that he may feel interested in you and is trying to express his feelings for you under the guise of customary gifting.
He Wants To Show Off
Some people like to flaunt their wealth by gifting expensive items to their friends and colleagues. If the guy in question is rich and usually likes to show off, it can very well be that he is doing the same by buying you a gift. It may not mean anything to him.
However, if you know that he has given you the gift with a sincere heart, then it can also be a genuine display of his affection for you.
It’s Just A Friendly Gesture From His side
Is he a friend who hangs out with you and knows you well? Maybe you had told him how you were running out of something and he bought that for you as a gift. Or maybe he saw something and thought you may like it and so got it for you.
It can be a kind gesture from a good friend and may not mean anything other than that. Many people love buying little things for their friends all the time.
If You Both Are Dating Or In A Committed Relationship Together
It’s again very common for couples to exchange loving gifts. The gift can be something meaningful like a personalized ring, or it can be something mundane like a tin of your favorite cookies.
If your boyfriend or partner randomly gifts you something, he is expressing his love, admiration, and appreciation for you and wants to continue being with you. He may also have bought you a gift to apologize for making you angry, or to cheer you up after a tiring day.
What Can Different Gifts Indicate About His Intentions?
Giving someone a bouquet of red roses is usually viewed as a romantic gesture. While buying a friend a pair of shoes that she has been going crazy over, can just be an expression of platonic love.
So, hope you got that how much the type of gift matters in this context. That’s why in order to understand the true meaning of the guy’s present, you must learn to analyze the type of present he has gifted you. And after this, if you can connect the type of gifts you’ve received from him with his behavior towards you, Vallah, you will have cracked the meaning that you’re looking for.
Flowers
Red roses are a symbol of romantic love. However, there are 100s of different varieties and colors of flowers that are used for gifts, many of which symbolize friendship, peace, family harmony, and good fortune. It’s quite commonplace for people to bring flowers for their near and dear ones.
If a guy randomly gifts you flowers that are associated with romance, or you receive a beautiful bouquet on/around Valentine’s day, you can safely assume that he likes you.
Chocolates
Gifting chocolates is a great way to make someone happy. Friends give each other chocolates all the time. If you like chocolates and a guy buys them for you, it means that he appreciates you and wants to make you happy.
Again, it can be because he has a crush on you and wants to impress you, but it can also mean that you are a good friend to him and he wants to cheer you up.
Handmade Gifts
They say that the most valuable thing that you can give someone is your time. And making handmade gifts takes a lot of time! Giving handmade gifts is not limited to any one type of relationship. Kids make cards for their parents, friends gift handmade chocolates, arts and crafts, etc, for birthdays or to cheer someone up.
Unless the gift itself is romantic, it is hard to figure out whether it was given with such an intention. However, if someone gifts you something that they made themselves, irrespective of your relation to them, you can rest assured that you mean a lot to them.
Jewelry, Clothing, Accessories
Did you receive a gift of jewelry, dresses, shoes, or perfume? If the gift is of your liking, matches your style, fits/suits you well, or is something you have raved about earlier, it can mean that they are attentive to you. If a man gifts you things like these, he has invested time and put effort to understand your preferences and get the gift right.
Unless he is a close friend who is very clear about not having any romantic feelings for you, these gifts can indicate that the person is interested in you or likes you.
Concert /Game Show Tickets
Someone wants to spend quality time with you. If you love attending concerts or game shows and a guy offers you tickets to come to watch the show with him, he might want to enjoy a happy time with you.
In case, if he just gives you the tickets, instead of wanting to come along with you, it may be his way of cheering you up and making your day brighter.
Stationery/Games/Items Of Day-To-Day Use
Buying items like notebooks, diaries, games, or snacks and drinks for someone is a sign of care and friendship. Even when your partner buys them for you, it’s more a show of appreciation and care than of romantic love. So, if a guy gives you similar things, it means he cares for you and is a good friend.
Lingerie
Lingerie is something very personal and intimate. Getting lingerie as a gift leaves no doubt that the person is passionate about you and may want to take things to bed with you.
If a guy gifts you lingerie and you are not interested in him, it is a good time to let him know your stance clearly. Here, I would like to suggest you not accept these gifts from him if you’re not interested. Rest is totally up to you.
What Should You Do Next?
So, now that you may have an idea about his intentions behind the gift, what do you want to do next? If he is trying to win you over, are you willing to let him continue? Or does that make you uncomfortable?
So, now it’s time to jump to the approaches that you should follow according to the guy’s intention you just decoded.
If He Is Trying To Impress You
He’s interested in you and wants to impress you. Are you up for it? If it sounds fun to you, be attentive to him. Let him know you notice him and are interested in him as well.
However, if you are not interested in him, observe him and if he tries to woo you again in some way, gently make it clear to him.
If He Wants You To Date Him
So, you have realized that this guy likes you and wants to date you. Do you reciprocate his feelings? If the answer is yes, then go ahead, let him know you feel the same! Happy dating!
If you’re not into him and all this makes you feel uncomfortable, let him know. Knowing your side will allow him to stop pursuing you and move on.
If He Wants A Favor
What type of favor does he want? Is it something small, like borrowing an item for a few days, or needed help with some work? If you feel good about it and want to help him, tell him the same. He will be happy for sure.
But what if he wants an intimate favor, like a one-night stand? Are you willing? If it’s a clear no from your side, it’s best to be direct and reject his advances.
If He Is Trying To Pressurise You
Some people use gifts as a way to stop you from speaking up or to pressurize you for something. In such cases, it’s less of a loving gift and more of a burden. If you feel that’s the case here, reject the gifts and own your power. It is better to say a NO now than to regret not saying one for years.
If He Is Just Being A Good Friend
He is just being a good friend. You invited him and he brought a gift. Or you were running out of something and he got it for you. Or maybe he’s a kind friend who loves giving gifts. If that is the case, you are lucky to have such amazing friends!
A guy who is interested in you may give you a gift to express his liking towards you or to woo you. Male friends are likely to give you gifts to show that they appreciate their friendship with you, or to thank you for your help. If you have invited them over, they may also bring a customary gift.
There can be several reasons why a guy gives you a gift. I hope that through this write-up, I was able to help you find out the reason that is true for you!
So, from now on, receive gifts from guys happily and analyze thoroughly.
FAQs:
For some additional help, here I’m adding some frequently asked common questions, that often tend to come to women’s minds when they receive gifts from guys.
What Does Giving A Gift Mean?
A gift is an item that you give to someone without the expectation of getting something in return. It’s a token of love, adoration, appreciation and it shows your care for the recipient. Giving a loved one a gift is a way of letting them know you are thinking about them. It can bring joy and happiness in a connection.
What Does It Mean When A Man Gives You Expensive Gifts?
If a man buys expensive gifts for you, he may be interested in you and is trying to woo you. He may be trying to show off his wealth to get you to like him back. If you want to be with him, great! If not, it’s better to be clear with him. Or else, he might use these gifts to pressurize you in the future to accept his advances.
He Bought Me A Birthday Gift. Why?
Is he a friend? Did you invite him to your birthday party?
Good friends give each other birthday gifts, that is a common practice. And if you invited him to your birthday party, bringing a gift is customary and the right thing to do. Otherwise, if he is just a casual friend or a colleague and he gave you a birthday gift, he might be interested in you. Remembering your birthday and making sure to buy something for you, shows that he cares about you and wants to make you happy.
What Does It Mean When A Guy Gives You Something Of His?
If a guy gives you something that holds a lot of value for him, something like a family heirloom, or an object he’s deeply attracted to – it shows you are his special person and he wants to stay connected with you forever.
Well, if it is something he used to use in the past but has grown out of it or moved on to new things (for eg., an old guitar or his old coffee table), it means that he thinks those things will be of use to you. And if he is still attached to his old belongings, he might want you to have them instead of putting them on sale because he trusts you will take care of them.
